Awhile back I wrote a blog post called How You Can Help David. I figured it was time for an update. Here are some more ways you can help.
1. Pray that we would get different health insurance that would cover David’s Humira and Celebrex.
2. Pray that the medications put David’s arthritis in remission.
3. Pray for our marriage. Chronic illness takes quite a toll on marriages.
4. Be kind and considerate. When we can’t attend something, you might say, “Is everything alright?” instead of “Why weren’t you there, slacker?”
5. Sometimes, especially if there is nothing new to report, we get sick of talking about arthritis. Maybe you could ask about David’s career. Or our dog. We always want to talk about Henry!
6. Recommend restaurants with good vegetarian meals when we go out to eat with you and your family. We’re trying hard to limit David’s animal protein intake to reduce inflammation.
7. Ask David what he needs when you see him. Ask him if there is anything you can do.
8. Keep in mind that we are physically incapable of having children right now. Comments like, “You’re so lucky you don’t have children,” sting a bit.
Thanks for reading and caring about us!
Love,
A Young Wife
Hi Ashley,
How are you both going?
Did you look into SCENAR at all? Love to hear if you did & had any results.
Lauren
Hey Ashley,
I didn’t get married til I was 29, and I remember how it hurt when others would say things like “oh, you’re SO lucky you’re not married yet…” and that was really all I wanted…same with when Doug and I did get married. I wanted a big family more than anything, and it just wasn’t possible. Just being about to have Jacob was a miracle! Your time will come. But it’s hard to walk it out now. I’m sure people don’t mean to be insensitive, but they just don’t think…
Hope you and David are BOTH doing great today!
Hello, Lauren! How are you? We receive so much information about so many different treatments. We haven’t made it down the list to SCENAR, yet, but we’ll get there.
Kerri, I heard so many negative comments about marriage, I was really concerned that David and I would do nothing but fight as newlyweds. I am still amazed that we argue less now than we did when we were engaged. Thank you for the encouragement. Jacob is a miracle, and well, so are you!