Comments on: A long, long time ago… http://youngwifestale.com/blog/chronicillness/arthritis-blogpost/a-long-long-time-ago/ Hand me another Diet Coke. Fri, 30 Jul 2010 14:35:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: David http://youngwifestale.com/blog/chronicillness/arthritis-blogpost/a-long-long-time-ago/comment-page-1/#comment-451 David Wed, 02 Sep 2009 14:07:29 +0000 http://youngwifestale.com/blog/?p=908#comment-451 Thanks for the encouragement and support. It was hard writing it but I hope it helps those with these issues to know they're not alone and that it is hard and that others feel this way and your not the only one, that it's a normal response. I also hope it helps those without these issues to peek into our world and see what's really going on with us behind our normal maybe even happy seeming persona we strive to put on. That we may in fact be happy and having fun but that it's tainted with the pain we endure through and for those moments. I appreciate each of you and I love my family which is always there for me and my wife which is my great helper and friend. Thanks for the encouragement and support. It was hard writing it but I hope it helps those with these issues to know they’re not alone and that it is hard and that others feel this way and your not the only one, that it’s a normal response. I also hope it helps those without these issues to peek into our world and see what’s really going on with us behind our normal maybe even happy seeming persona we strive to put on. That we may in fact be happy and having fun but that it’s tainted with the pain we endure through and for those moments. I appreciate each of you and I love my family which is always there for me and my wife which is my great helper and friend.

]]> By: Ingrid http://youngwifestale.com/blog/chronicillness/arthritis-blogpost/a-long-long-time-ago/comment-page-1/#comment-450 Ingrid Wed, 02 Sep 2009 08:35:15 +0000 http://youngwifestale.com/blog/?p=908#comment-450 David, thanks so much for your post today. I am disabled due to several chronic invisible illnesses. Many people who have not personally experienced debilitating chronic illness may be amazed at how we endure the pain, the losses (career, hobbies, favorite sports, time, financial stability, etc.), loneliness, and the many "new little" losses that we grieve as we realize yet another thing in which we are unable to participate or are unable to do. However, I know what you mean in your blog because NOTHING compares to the grief I feel that I may be letting down my children, husband, parents, siblings, and other family and loved ones, and yes, even the strangers that I wish that I could help. I wonder when I will ever get over this grief, since it must STILL, after all these years, be raw because after reading your whole blog, it was not until I reached Kristy's two line comment that I burst into tears. Kristy, thank you SO much for telling David you are never disappointed in him. I'm sure it means the world to him. And, Darlene, what a wonderful mom you are, also saying exactly what David needs. I'm also lucky to have a family that understands how hard this aspect of illness is for me, and they too give me words of encouragement. I don't know why the worry of disappointing everyone, especially my  children, persists. I wonder if God is disappointed with me that I still struggle with this. David and Ashley, my prayers are with you and your family. May God bless you, strengthen you, comfort you, and hopefully even heal you both!   David, thanks so much for your post today. I am disabled due to several chronic invisible illnesses. Many people who have not personally experienced debilitating chronic illness may be amazed at how we endure the pain, the losses (career, hobbies, favorite sports, time, financial stability, etc.), loneliness, and the many “new little” losses that we grieve as we realize yet another thing in which we are unable to participate or are unable to do. However, I know what you mean in your blog because NOTHING compares to the grief I feel that I may be letting down my children, husband, parents, siblings, and other family and loved ones, and yes, even the strangers that I wish that I could help. I wonder when I will ever get over this grief, since it must STILL, after all these years, be raw because after reading your whole blog, it was not until I reached Kristy’s two line comment that I burst into tears. Kristy, thank you SO much for telling David you are never disappointed in him. I’m sure it means the world to him. And, Darlene, what a wonderful mom you are, also saying exactly what David needs. I’m also lucky to have a family that understands how hard this aspect of illness is for me, and they too give me words of encouragement. I don’t know why the worry of disappointing everyone, especially my  children, persists. I wonder if God is disappointed with me that I still struggle with this. David and Ashley, my prayers are with you and your family. May God bless you, strengthen you, comfort you, and hopefully even heal you both!  

]]> By: Karen http://youngwifestale.com/blog/chronicillness/arthritis-blogpost/a-long-long-time-ago/comment-page-1/#comment-449 Karen Tue, 01 Sep 2009 18:22:14 +0000 http://youngwifestale.com/blog/?p=908#comment-449 David, I too understand. For the past year I've been trying to get a diagnosis. One thing my sister-in-law told me that I try to remember is: when you deny people the opportunity to help you you deny them a blessing. Also, I remember when I was the sickest my sister telling me: I know you are strong enough to get through this. And I know that God is able. In every situation, God is able. God bless you and Ashley. David, I too understand. For the past year I’ve been trying to get a diagnosis. One thing my sister-in-law told me that I try to remember is: when you deny people the opportunity to help you you deny them a blessing. Also, I remember when I was the sickest my sister telling me: I know you are strong enough to get through this. And I know that God is able. In every situation, God is able.
God bless you and Ashley.

]]> By: Darlene http://youngwifestale.com/blog/chronicillness/arthritis-blogpost/a-long-long-time-ago/comment-page-1/#comment-448 Darlene Tue, 01 Sep 2009 14:52:25 +0000 http://youngwifestale.com/blog/?p=908#comment-448 Son, even though I love you with my whole being, I know that God loves you more. And even though I would give you all that I have, even the cost of my life, God will give you things I can't. I want you to know that often, throughout the day, I ask Him to give you ALL the things that you need and want. I am praying and thanking God that our prayers will be answered soon! He is ALL powerful, He is ALL loving, and He is ALL knowing. We can trust in Him. When there are dark days, cling to God's Word for encouragement. Call your family and friends and share your needs. Never be embarrassed about what you can and cannot do. Things could be reversed and it could be any one of us. And if it were, I know that you would be the first to help. You are the best son a mother could ever hope for. I am so proud of you that I cannot hardly contain "what a blessing" "you" have been to me. I love you and am so grateful that God gave you to me. Love, mom Son, even though I love you with my whole being, I know that God loves you more. And even though I would give you all that I have, even the cost of my life, God will give you things I can’t. I want you to know that often, throughout the day, I ask Him to give you ALL the things that you need and want. I am praying and thanking God that our prayers will be answered soon! He is ALL powerful, He is ALL loving, and He is ALL knowing. We can trust in Him. When there are dark days, cling to God’s Word for encouragement. Call your family and friends and share your needs. Never be embarrassed about what you can and cannot do. Things could be reversed and it could be any one of us. And if it were, I know that you would be the first to help. You are the best son a mother could ever hope for. I am so proud of you that I cannot hardly contain “what a blessing” “you” have been to me. I love you and am so grateful that God gave you to me. Love, mom

]]> By: Kristy http://youngwifestale.com/blog/chronicillness/arthritis-blogpost/a-long-long-time-ago/comment-page-1/#comment-447 Kristy Tue, 01 Sep 2009 14:28:37 +0000 http://youngwifestale.com/blog/?p=908#comment-447 I love you. You are a great brother! xo I'm never disappointed... :) I love you. You are a great brother! xo I’m never disappointed… :)

]]> By: Kerri Sweeris http://youngwifestale.com/blog/chronicillness/arthritis-blogpost/a-long-long-time-ago/comment-page-1/#comment-446 Kerri Sweeris Tue, 01 Sep 2009 13:21:18 +0000 http://youngwifestale.com/blog/?p=908#comment-446 Oh, David, I SO know how you feel! Well, not about the 6'5" 250 guy.... : ) It's SO frustrating being young, and having people look at you like, what's wrong with you? I HATE it when people judge me or think I'm lazy. I love to help others, too. I hate it that my 70 year old mom helps me more than I help her. Praise God He didn't end your life...although I understand that prayer, I truly do. Say hi to Ashley, and keep us posted on the Humira! We are praying! Kerri Oh, David, I SO know how you feel! Well, not about the 6’5″ 250 guy…. : ) It’s SO frustrating being young, and having people look at you like, what’s wrong with you? I HATE it when people judge me or think I’m lazy. I love to help others, too. I hate it that my 70 year old mom helps me more than I help her.

Praise God He didn’t end your life…although I understand that prayer, I truly do. Say hi to Ashley, and keep us posted on the Humira! We are praying!
Kerri

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