Is There a Dollar Limit?
5 Jun
David and I were talking about a people that break up when they’re engaged, and I discovered something quite interesting about my easy-going, generous, kind husband: when it comes to breaking up, he is very monetary person.
I said if a woman breaks it off with a man, she should give the ring back. If he breaks up with her, then she can keep it. David said, “Yeah, but you should also give back any expensive gifts when you break up.”
“Like the digital camera I bought you the Christmas we were engaged?”
“Oh, no. That cost less than $500.”
“What?! You have a dollar limit? So anything under $500 you you get to keep?”
“Yeah.”
“That camera was the most expensive thing I could afford to buy you at the time!” (David was looking over my shoulder as I was typing this. He told me the camera wasn’t a $3,000 camera I was still paying off. I asked him what $3,000 dollar item he was still paying off and he replied, “No one’s ever broken up with me.” Good grief, David!)
He shrugged. I guess David expected me to keep a list of the gifts he gave me while we were dating and their value. This was so strange and funny to me.
So what do you think? Is there a dollar limit? If you broke up with your boyfriend/girlfriend/fiancee how would you decide what gifts you’d give back?
Gifts are gifts. I wouldn’t give anything back with the exception of the engagement ring. I think it is only right to return the symbol of what would have been your future covenant.
I never gave nor received such expensive gifts though.
It must be in the name… my husband is a David too and he feels the same way your husband does
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Lol! I would give everything back. I wouldn’t want to have anything that reminded me of that person. But that’s just me. I would keep the ring though. I would hawk that and use the money to by myself an expensive hand bag!
Ha-ha. I have had ex-boyfriends that have made off with my furniture, so, no, I am not sure about returning gifts.
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Anything that was a gift does not need to be returned. If it was a loan or something like that, then they would definitely have to pay it back. From wacting court shows, I know that there is a rule about engagement rings and I think it changes in every state.
I once heard that if your engagement ring was given to you on a special occasion (i.e. Christmas, birthday, anniversary), then it was yours to keep because it was in lieu of another gift. But if you were proposed to at some other point during the year, the ring should be returned.
As another commenter mentioned a gift is a gift!! I don’t think you should have to give back a gift but yes the ring I believe should be given back!
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I would say gifts are gifts, but if we’re talking about something that the giver is still paying off, then that should be given back… of course who brok up with who, and why is always a factor!
If you guys were living together, and your fiance paid for your car, but then you broke up with him? Definitely pay the guy back. Unless he is a billionaire.
I think every situation is completely unique. If you caught your future husband sleeping with your best friend (or sister), then I would say yes, keep the ring.